The Bay Cities Area of Narcotics Anonymous serves as a vital resource for individuals and families affected by addiction throughout the coastal South Bay region of Los Angeles County. By coordinating local NA groups, maintaining accurate meeting information, and supporting area-wide service efforts, the Bay Cities Area helps ensure that anyone seeking recovery can easily find help. The area supports meetings in these communities Carson, Gardena, Hermosa Beach, Lomita, Long Beach, Manhattan Beach, Redondo Beach, San Pedro, Signal Hill, Torrance, Torrrance, Wilmington, strengthening connections between members, promoting unity, and fostering a safe, consistent message of recovery for the broader community.
Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety attack?
First, we stop. We can't deal with everything at once, so we stop for a moment to let things settle. Then we take a "spot inventory" of the things that are bothering us. We examine each item, asking ourselves this question: "How important is it, really?" In most cases, we'll find that most of our fears and concerns don't need our immediate attention. We can put those aside, and focus on the issues that really need to be resolved right away. Then we stop again and ask ourselves, "Who's in control here, anyway?" This helps remind us that our Higher Power is in control. We seek our Higher Power's will for the situation, whatever it is. We can do this in any number of ways: through prayer, talks with our sponsor or NA friends, or by attending a meeting and asking others to share their experience. When our Higher Power's will becomes clear to us, we pray for the ability to carry it out. Finally, we take action.
Anxiety attacks need not paralyze us. We can utilize the resources of the NA program to deal with anything that comes our way.
For so long, we wanted to be anyone else because we were uncomfortable in our own skin. Many of us felt like we didn't fit in anywhere. And it's no different when we first get to NA. We compared our insides to the outward appearances of others and drew the usual conclusions. All we could see were the differences--and no one looked like we felt. Not that we had a firm grip on who we were or even how we felt.
As we observe in Living Clean, ". . . our identity was built on fantasy: who we could be, would be, should be, or even who we used to be." With precious little self-knowledge, it was difficult to build the bonds of human connections. Our ability to share with or relate to others was limited at best. We justified keeping other members at arm's length with assumptions based on old thinking and outward appearances. The outsides were what seemed to matter most. One member shared, "I shielded the scared little girl inside with spikes and leather. I looked for others with similar armor, thinking maybe we could be alone together."
In recovery, we learn to act our way into better thinking. We begin by emulating people we admire and picking up new behaviors that seem to fit. We do the next right thing, knowing that we don't have to feel okay to be okay. We learn to practice love as a spiritual principle by simply listening to our fellow members.
Sometimes, we learn to love and accept others as they confront their greatest challenges--the new member, the recent widow, the cancer survivor, the parents fighting for custody of their children. We relate to their insides: their grief, their struggle, their vulnerability as they share their pain. Moments like these bring us back to humanity. The conditions of our own brokenness may have been vastly different, but we connect based on feelings.
We let go of our old ideas about fitting in or "matching" those around us. The basis for our connections shifts to higher ground. Who needs to fit in when we belong? We learn to practice love and acceptance of ourselves and others a little more fully in this safe harbor of belonging.
